رحمك الله يا سمية
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
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المستـوي الرابـــع
توحيد الربوبية
الزواج 1
(فضائل النكاح وعقده )
الزواج 2
(المحرمات في النكاح)
من آداب العطاس
حفظ (الكوثر – الماعون – قريش - الفيل)
رد على استفسارت المسلم الجديد
المحن واختبارات بعد اعلان الاسلام
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
Tawheed ar-Ruboobiyyah: Belief in the Lordship of Allah
Tawheed ar-Ruboobiyyah means to believe that Allah alone is the Rabb (the Creator, Provider, Sustainer, etc.) He has no partner in His Dominion and Actions. Allah alone has the power to benefit or harm, the power to change destiny, and He alone is truly Self-Sufficient (As-Samad) upon whom all the creation depends, as He says: “Allah created all things and He is the Wakeel (Trustee, Disposer of affairs, Guardian) of all things.”[1] “To Him belong the keys of the Heavens and the earth. He (Allah) enlarges and restricts provisions to whomever He Wills. Surely, He has Knowledge of everything.”[2]
Tawheed ar-Ruboobiyyah also includes the belief that Allah is Unique (One, single) and Incomparable. He has no wife nor offspring, no mother nor father. “Say, He is Allah, the One and Only. Allah, the Eternal - the Absolute: He begets not, nor is He begotten.”[3] Allah does not merge in any living or dead creature, nor anything is part of Allah. Neither living nor dead merges in the Being of Allah, nor is any creature part of Him. All creatures are created by His Order and are subservient to His Will.
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[1] Soorah az-Zumar (39): 62.
[2] Soorah ash-Shoorah (42): 12.
[3] Soorah al-Ikhlas (112): 1-3
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
An Introduction To Muslim Family (part 1 of 2)
The family is one of the central organizing institutions of society. In Islam a family is built through marriage. Marriage is a legal arrangement in Islam, not a sacrament in the Christian sense, and is secured with a written contract. Marriage is about stability, loyalty, security, and adulthood. Marital life is marked by mercy, love, and compassion as Allah says:
“And He has placed between you love and compassion.” (Quran 30:21)
The core sentiments of family life that define the nature and meaning of this social institution are love, nurturance, and dependability where spouses find comfort in each other:
“It is He who created you from one soul and created from it its mate that he might find comfort in her.” (Quran 8:189)
“They are as a garment for you, and you are as a garment for them.” (Quran 2:187)
Purpose of Marriage
1. Sexual drive is a normal human emotion. Islam does not block it or look at it with disdain. It provides channels to satisfy sexual urges without undermining social responsibility. It does so by regulating sexuality within marriage.
2. A single person is too weak to go through this life on his own. A life partner in the form of a spouse shares the joys and burdens of life. Marriage provides the social support individuals need. Marriage provides meaning and a set of personal, intimate relationships against the backdrop of the impersonal, bureaucratized world of modern society.
3. The family is about continuity and extension. Marriage concerns raising the future generation and passing on to them the values and wisdom of the past generation.
4. Marriage safeguards lineage, controls reproduction, and ensures the socialization of children who are born within the family unit. Islam does not make the mother solely responsible for raising children; rather, it makes the father primarily responsible for them. Every child should be attributable to his biological father, so lineages do not get mixed up due to loose sexual relations in the society. Through the institution of marriage, individuals are joined together and given the social and legal sanction to perpetuate their name and traditions through their offspring.
Inter-faith Marriages
Faith is the most important denominator for a Muslim in choosing a spouse. Muslims are not allowed to marry non-Muslims. The only exception is that Muslim men are allowed to marry Jewish or Christian women with certain conditions. They are not allowed to marry any non-Muslim women, but only those who adhere to the Jewish or Christian faith. However, chastity is an important condition. Only a woman who is a virgin, divorcee, or a widow may be married.
The reason for limiting the permission for marrying people of other faiths is given men alone is essence to protect the Muslim woman’s religion. If a Muslim husband asks his wife not to dress inappropriately or not to kiss his male friends - an acceptable social practice in the West - she could comply without affecting the teachings of her religion. But a Christian husband’s request that his Muslim wife buys alcohol, serves him pork, wears tight revealing clothes, or kisses his friends would involve disobeying Allah, and therefore be destructive to her religious practice. Furthermore, Muslim men are especially discouraged from marrying Jewish or Christian women where the government is non-Muslim and the Muslims are a minority. If their marriage ends in divorce, or the husband dies, the court will usually grant custody to the mother who will raise them as non-Muslims.
Spousal Rights
Islam clearly sets out the rights and responsibilities of each spouse to maintain marital harmony. The fact is spelled out in the Quran:
“And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is well-known, but men have a degree over them.” (Quran 2:228)
In general, husbands have more rights which are due to them than the wife due to their role on the family, just as parents have more rights than their children, and leaders have more rights than the general masses, etc. A husband is in charge of the family.
Leadership however is based on mutual consultation, it is not a dictatorship. Addressing one of the issues of marital life – the weaning of a child - the Quran encourages mutual consultation:
“But if the couple desire to wean by mutual consent and consultation, then there is no blame on them.” (Quran 2:233)
The Quran encourages spouses to live in kindness and to consult each other:
“And consult together in kindness.” (Quran 65:4)
In brief, the rights of a wife over her husband are:
(1) Mahr or bridal gift given at the time of marriage from the husband.
(2) Financially maintenance, including accommodation, food, clothing, and spend on her according to what is commonly acceptable.
(3) Good behavior and kindness.
(4) Sexual intercourse.
(5) Divorce: A wife may seek divorce from a man who insists on disobeying Allah. A wife may also seek divorce due to cruel behavior and physical abuse, or non-fulfillment of her rights, or any other valid reason.
The rights of a husband over his wife are:
(1) Obedience. A husband has right over his wife that she obeys him in what he commands her as long as it is reasonably within her abilities, and does not involve Allah’s disobedience. A Muslim cannot obey anyone in a sin, let alone a husband.
(2) Husband has a right to good behavior and kindness.
(3) Sexual intercourse.
(4) Divorce
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
An Introduction To Muslim Family (part 2 of 2)
Children’s Rights
Marital bond helps solidify a family unit in which children will be cared for and raised to become socially productive adults. Families are the proper setting in which children are cared for and raised. Parents can be counted on to provide long-term care for their dependent children because of the dual imperatives of love and obligation. Childbearing is viewed as Allah’s blessing, a ‘sign’ from Him that deserves our gratitude:
“And Allah has made wives for you from among yourselves, and has given you sons and daughters from your wives, and has provided you with good things. Will they then believe in falsehood and deny the favor of Allah?” (Quran 16:72)
Wealth and children are from the ‘adornments’ of this life:
“Wealth and children are an ornament of the life of the world.” (Quran 18:46)
Abraham, the beloved slave of God, prayed to Allah for offspring:
“My Lord, grant me (a child) from among the righteous.” (Quran 37:100)
Zechariah prayed:
“Bestow upon me, out of Your grace, the gift of a successor.” (Quran 19:5)
The Quran tells us of the prayer of the righteous:
“Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes.” (Quran 25:74)
Thus, children are the product of marriage and childbearing is a major goal of Muslim marriage. Children have certain rights over their parents. First, the child must be ascribed to the biological father. A father can not deny his child. Second, a mother should breastfeed her child. If she cannot, the father has to arrange for a wet nurse or another alternative, such as bottle feeding. Third, a baby has the right on his mother that she takes care of him. Both parents are responsible for education, religious instruction, and imparting good manners to the children. Fourth, a child has the right to be treated equitably like the other children. Fifth, the child has a right to be given a good name.
End of Marriage
Both husband and wife are encouraged to deal with each other kindly and render the rights of the other to reduce conflict and sow love and affection in each other’s heart. They should be patient with each other to preserve their marriage:
“And live with them in kindness. Then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it.” (Quran 4:19)
Marriage is meant to last a lifetime. There is no concept of temporary marriage in Islam. The basis of long, lasting marriage should be affection and compatibility between spouses without which it becomes impossible. This is why Islam encourages both spouses to be kind and flexible, and try to resolve their differences through family arbitration. Modern marriages are always at risk of disruption because of a mismatch of personalities or the social forces at work that render them fragile. In case all measures to save a marriage fail, and affection is replaced by permanent animosity making marital life impossible, Islam permits separation as a last resort. Both spouses are allowed to go their own way and find a better and happier solution. The separation can take place through talaq or khul’.
Talaq is what is commonly known as divorce. Divorce in Islam is different in some respects from civil divorce. It is of two types, revocable and irrevocable. Divorce should be pronounced one time after a woman has cleaned herself from the monthly cycle before resuming sexual relations with her. In this period he pronounces the divorce by saying once, ‘I divorce you.’ After divorce a ‘waiting period’ – Idda - is prescribed in which the husband might rethink his decision, revoke his divorce, and ‘resume’ marital relationship. Separation from his wife partner might back the better memories of married life and encourage him to reconsider. Likewise, arbitration from members of both families is also prescribed to resolve the root cause of marital conflict.
“And if you fear a breach between the two, appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family, and the other from hers; if they wish for peace.” (Quran 4:35)
Within the ‘waiting period’ the husband can resume the marriage after revoking the divorce, but after the ‘waiting period’ has passed, he loses his right to revoke the divorce requiring a new marriage contract, ‘bridal gift,’ and assent of the woman for remarriage.
Khul’
A woman has the right to ask for divorce due to mistreatment or lack of financial support and, in an Islamic system, she may resort to a Muslim judge who can separate the two. Khul’ is a woman seeking divorce from her husband in lieu of returning the ‘bridal gift’ to him.
‘Waiting Period’ - Idda
Prophet Muhammad, may Allah praise him, deemed divorce in any case to be the worst of solutions, to be avoided at almost any cost. If one must divorce, the process should be carried out over a period of time known as Idda. This is both to make sure that the woman is not pregnant and, gives the man a chance to reconsider his decision, to avoid the possibility of severing a marriage because of the anger of the moment. Idda is the period of three menstrual cycles a woman has to wait before the divorce becomes final. The idda for a widow is four months and ten days.
Idda and family arbitration are two of the mechanisms within the Islamic Law to preserve the institution of marriage
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
Marriage Advise (2)
First Things to Know
One of the most useful advice, in the opinion of this author, is that a new Muslim should take Islam one piece at a time. It is a total way of life that needs time to adjust. It can take years to leave many non-Islamic behaviors, but sticking to Islam brings happiness in this life and in the one to come. Therefore, allow yourself time to grow as a Muslim and practice what you learn.
For a new Muslim, this author would advise to wait at least a year, preferably more, before thinking about getting married. Marriage is a big decision and one must allow oneself sufficient time to grow before making such a life-changing decision. Many of your views will change after entering into Islam. Marriage will set a direction for your life and determine how you identify yourself later in life. What you may find acceptable today, may not be acceptable after a few years of being a Muslim. Instead of looking to getting married right away, spend some time to not just learn, but live Islam. You would want to marry someone with the same dedication and level of application to Islam as you. That level will fluctuate in the normative years of becoming a Muslim.
Often times, a new Muslim finds himself lonely after accepting Islam, therefore, getting married too early to seek companionship usually results in a quick divorce and bitterness. People often times forget that marriage requires financial and emotional stability.
After establishing a stable base to stand on for your new religion, you can learn the details of marriage in Islam.
Finding a Muslim Life Partner
What is the purpose of your creation? It is to worship Allah and to draw close to Him. Consequently, choose a mate who will help you fulfill your purpose of creation. Do not ignore the factors in a prospective partner that will assist you in the life to come. This way, Insha-Allah, your love will be blessed.
Consider how seriously your prospective partner tries to draw close to Allah, and not just how physically attractive he or she appears. At the same time, keep in mind that certain level of physical attraction is necessary to get married. Moreover, just because someone is trying their best to be good Muslim does not mean they are faultless or even suitable for marriage. Sufficient inquiries will have to be made.
A new Muslim enters into Islam with a lot of preconceived notions and ideas that shape their outlook on how they perceive things. Western culture promotes marriage as a commitment to one person after having dated or even lived with many, knowing that one is the “right” person. The Islamic concept is much different. For example, in Islam you typically do not “fall in love” before marriage, but after marriage. In Islam, marriage is not a result of romantic love only, which brings intense love in the beginning, followed by later disappointment. In the West, as quickly as people “fall in love,” they “fall out of love!” In the West, people imagine their “honeymoon phase” will last forever. It never does. That is why, people keep hopping from one partner to another, trying to keep up the excitement.
Islam, on the other hand, sobers us to stay together when the “honeymoon phase” ends. It gives you guidelines to sustain a healthy relationship for the rest of your life. Love is definitely part of an Islamic marriage, but not the type that is shown in movies and teen romance novels. It is not sensible to destroy your life looking for romantic love that only exists in movies and novels.
Common Sense in Marriage
1. Allah warns us,
“And do not marry unbelieving women until they believe…even though she attracts you. Nor marry believing women to unbelievers until they believe…even though he attracts you. Unbelievers invite you towards the Fire...” (Quran 2:221)
The person you will live with the rest of your life will without doubt have a great influence on you. Therefore, you should ensure you have similar goals in life. The top of those goals should be seeking Allah’s pleasure. When you meet your prospective spouse, ask questions. Just because a man looks religious, does not mean he does not smoke or prays regularly on time. Similarly, if a woman appears religious does not mean she knows how to be a good Muslim wife and mother. Ask about matters that are important to you. Do not take anything for granted. Discuss finances, children, in-laws, work or study after marriage, division of chores, in short, anything that is important to you. It will help you make a decision about whether you want to marry that person or not.
Finding out about the person before marriage is not un-Islamic. Informed decision will save you from much pain and suffering later. Moreover, offer the Istikharah prayer (the prayer of Guidance).[1]
2. Do not expect major changes in a person after marriage. People change with time, and often they do not change how we expect them to or want them to change. For example, if someone has a particular personality trait like stinginess or wastefulness, it is unlikely to change quickly and easily. Getting married with false hopes is ill-advised and risky. Do not criticize someone for their physical flaws later in life. It will ruin your marriage. Be honest with others and yourself and take responsibility for your choices. A initial choice will determine how much effort you will have to put later in your marriage to lead a happy married life pleasing to your Creator.
It is also important to think carefully before bringing a child into the couple’s life. A baby should be brought into a healthy, stable marriage. Many people end up being single parents, bringing children into a dysfunctional family where there is either no dad or no mom.
3. That two people are good Muslims does not mean they will make a good couple. Compatibility is essential. It is important to choose a spouse who views and practices Islam like you. Furthermore, religion is not the only area of compatibility. Work, continuing education, socialization, city of residence, kids, and finances are also among important areas.
4. Realize what are your rights and responsibilities as a Muslim husband or wife and fulfill them to the best of your ability.
5. Lastly, it is beneficial for newcomers to Islam to search for a role model. Follow the role model in what they do according to Islam and leave the rest.
Footnotes:
[1] For more information on Istikharah, please see: Islam Question and Answer - Istikhaarah prayer
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
Prophet (SAW)'s Prayers
When hearing someone sneeze
Say to the one who sneezes:
يَرْحَمُكَ اللَّهُ
"May Allah have mercy on you".
The person sneezing should then reply
[COLOR="rgb(255, 0, 255)"]يَهْدِيكُمُ اللَّهُ وَيُصْلِحُ بَالَكُمْ
"May Allah keep you on hidayat (guidance) and make proper your condition.
(Mishkat, Bukhari)
If the sneezing person is a woman, the reply is with a kasrah (zer) on the kaaf.
If the sneezing person dose not recite "Alhamdulillaah" then it is not necessary to reply but if he does say so then it is waajib reply.
If the sneezing person has flu or any other difficulty which results in repeated sneezes then it is not necessary to reply after the third time.
(Mishkat)
To regard the sneeze as a bad omen: One should not take or see anything as bad omen as it is stated as being Shirk in the hadith.
(Hisnul Hasin)[/COLOR]
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Sahih International
Have you not considered, [O Muhammad], how your Lord dealt with the companions of the elephant?
Sahih International
Did He not make their plan into misguidance?
Sahih International
And He sent against them birds in flocks,
Sahih International
Striking them with stones of hard clay,
Sahih International
And He made them like eaten straw.
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Sahih International
Have you seen the one who denies the Recompense?
Sahih International
For that is the one who drives away the orphan
Sahih International
And does not encourage the feeding of the poor.
Sahih International
So woe to those who pray
Sahih International107:6 to top
[But] who are heedless of their prayer -
Sahih International
Those who make show [of their deeds]
107:7 to top
Sahih International
And withhold [simple] assistance.
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
رحمك الله يا سمية
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
106:1 to top
Sahih International
For the accustomed security of the Quraysh -
106:2 to top
Sahih International
Their accustomed security [in] the caravan of winter and summer -
106:3 to top
Sahih International
Let them worship the Lord of this House,
106:4 to top
Sahih International
Who has fed them, [saving them] from hunger and made them safe, [saving them] from fear.
تحمَّلتُ وحديَ مـا لا أُطيـقْ من الإغترابِ وهَـمِّ الطريـقْ
اللهم اني اسالك في هذه الساعة ان كانت جوليان في سرور فزدها في سرورها ومن نعيمك عليها . وان كانت جوليان في عذاب فنجها من عذابك وانت الغني الحميد برحمتك يا ارحم الراحمين
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